Happy Happy 2020

This is a great year to focus on vision (get it: 20/20?)! I’m personally using the word FOCUS and the mantra “FOCUS UP!” as my new year tools. What word(s) are you feeling for this coming year? Let me know in the comments!

Happiest of New Years to us all!

Learning Never Ends!

I’m loving the course I’m currently taking, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, or NLP for short.

At a basic level, NLP looks at patterns we make in our heads and through our words. I will be concluding the class in a few weeks and am so grateful for all the info I can synthesize and use in my coaching sessions.

What new info are you bringing into your world? I’d love to hear about it!

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Get Out!

The last few weeks have been a struggle for me. Sleeping too much, not enough exercise…you know, the late winter “I don’t wanna” syndrome.

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I’m a big fan of Dr. John Arden’s mindfulness tool: S.E.E.D.S. Balance the following areas of your life and things won’t be so draining:

Sleep (not too much, not too little)

Exercise (just do it!)

Educate (yer mind)

Diet (all the things…food, media, negative relationships)

Socialize (with other righteous folks)

As I write this I’m on one of my jaunts to NYC. Today started out with sleeting snow and muck on the ground. Earlier in the week I RSVP’d to a meetup in the hitherlands of Brooklyn. After walking the dog early this morning I began to talk myself out of schlepping ALL the way to the event [insert snark face].

I thought about just jumping back into bed.

I thought about staying in and arting all day.

Instead, I put myself together (brushed my hair AND my teeth!) and headed out for the meetup adventure.

Art work by me 🙂 http://Www.Instagram.com/FilomenaJackStudio

AND I’M SO HAPPY I DID (yup, shouting!)

The meetup was produced by Matt Rosenblum of Advanced Life Coaching https://advancedlifecoachmarketing.com/      
Go check this man out! (I’ll wait…)

I’d met Matt at another meetup a few months ago and am glad to be able to get to know him. He’s smart, thorough, and shares his knowledge freely. Win win win!

Today I also met A, an entrepreneur working on a fashion related business and M, an advocate for students and families trying to manage the world of higher learning.

It felt great to chat about our projects, and the feeling of useful focus (versus twirling thoughts that lead to burnout) was refreshing.

If you’d like to check out this fabu meetup, here’s a link: https://www.meetup.com/Life-Coaches-In-NYC/events/

She wore a Raspberry Beret!

I’m so glad I went on today’s adventure! What fun thing(s) will you be doing today? Have any other suggestions for meetups you love? Let me know!

Things Change

When I was studying for my life coaching certification my instructor warned his students that we might experience a change in our social circles.

The work to become a (well equipped) life coach includes working on one’s own issues, baggage, limiting beliefs, and all the other sh*t that doesn’t serve us. 

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This can be threatening to those around us. They may not be ready to explore their own issues, or may not have the maturity to relate to people working to better themselves. 

THINGS CHANGE AND THAT’S OK

My friend group has gone through this recently. I’ve had to find ways to come to peace with the fact that friendships are living entities. They ebb and flow. They stretch, and sometimes they break. 

Being warned during my certification process definitely has helped take the sting out of these recent changes. Taking counsel from a friend who is also stretching her wings really has helped me as well. She’s experienced some of these changes with her pack of buddies in the last few years. 

TAKE AWAY:

Be flexible. Understand that change is normal. Stay focused on what feels like your true track. Don’t get bogged down when others can’t or won’t keep up with your progress. Your paths are not theirs and theirs are not yours.

Be well, thanks for hanging in there with me 🙂

Filomena